ROMANCE - To court or woo romantically; treat with ardor or chivalrousness; a strong fascination or enthusiasm for something. [Romance week starts here. Click for this week's Bliss Initiatives.]
In a comment this week my bloggy friend Theresa said "But really - isn't every day a love letter? Some little thing you might say or do could be a love letter, right?" and she is absolutely right! I'm not giving up on my Love Letter, I have actually started one but I'm done with feeling bad about it not going as I wanted. Expectations about how we want things to turn out really can get in the way of enjoying what we have. Last night my Sweetie came home and grilled a terrific meal for us, our girl went to sleep early (probably because she stayed up so late yesterday!) and we had a nice evening snuggling on the couch. We didn't do anything overtly romantic. We just enjoyed each other's company.
My hubby and I always enjoy each other's company. I need to remind myself what a gift that is. The days he works late or even worse has to travel my days feel very very long. He always says things, like "I wish I could just stay home with you everyday" and when I know he is on his way home I look out the window in happy anticipation at least a dozen times. I don't want to miss greeting him at the door with a kiss and our girl likes to run and jump into his arms with a big hello and a "How was your day Daddy? Busy or fun?"
Our everyday life isn't flowing with roses, poetry and candlelight but romance can be found in the little things. Bringing coffee to each other in bed. We take turns being first to do this and I am not sure which makes me happier. Having a cup waiting when I open my eyes or knowing that I beat him to the offering and he doesn't have to get up. We take turns in the kitchen too, each trying to create a new and exciting culinary treat. We think of each other first and go out of our way to make things easy, fun or surprising for each other. Our love language is demonstration and this we do well.
All in all I will give myself a 6 out of 10 for my romantic effort this week. My love letter is unfinished and I didn't follow through on doing something romantic everyday this week as I had planned. In terms of increasing everyday bliss, I give myself two bliss boosts. Getting smart about seeing romance in everyday actions will definitely increase my over all feeling of Bliss. We are ending the week with an actual date night tomorrow, The Girl will be at a friend's house, which means our plans do not require her cooperation.
It is easy to get inspired by the thought of a gesture not normally our style and when it happens the added treat can certainly be a delight but not having it doesn't diminish what we do have. We say often to each other "We have a great life don't we? and until that answer isn't anything but the resounding YES we always speak I don't think the fact that I swing and miss with a big gesture from time to time is anything I need to be sad about. It is fun to try.
Are you doing anything romantic this week?
Next post: Gratitude week kick off!
P.S. I am not done reviewing all of the Love Songs forwarded to me during this week so I will be updating next romance week with my top 5 romantic song list. Feel fre to keep those songs coming until then!
My 13 bliss virtues are joy, order, creativity, passion, whimsy, serenity, inquiry, community, romance, gratitude, moxie, humility, and surprise.
This week we are studying Romance. Next up is Gratitude Week